I'm not sure this is really the right venue, however, seeing how this is MY blog; I can post what I want. :-) Ahhh...the beauty of the internet never ceases to amaze me.
I've been following one particular family in their adoption journey since we started Julia's adoption in May of 2005. I was never sure who was really writing in the beginning, was it the future mom or dad. I was continually shocked at the awful things that this couple had to say about families with biological kids. As I mentioned in post back in May, I felt that they were very cynical (and still are). Like God had purposely picked them to be infertile. Now, having said that, maybe if Wayne and I were infertile I would feel some of those same things. That is something that I will never know. Wayne and I were blessed with 2 beautiful kids of our own. I guess if I had a "beef" with God, it would be over Anna's hearing loss. I sure didn't order a kiddo with a special need. Now, looking back I can see that God had a much bigger plan and Anna was the catalyst for that. Had Anna been born with normal hearing, we would have never been lead to Julia. We probably wouldn't have even adopted.
As I was reading this family blog (they are now in China and have their daughter) they keep going on about how small she is. Um...if you had read anything about international adoption (which I'm not sure they did, jeepers! who is their agency?? and with all the time they had to prepare...they were DTC in June of 2005 in the NSN program, I would have thought in the past 14 months they would have done SOME reading) ANYWAYS....If they had read anything about Chinese adoptions and girls...they tend to be small, much smaller than their counterparts in America. They can be healthy, just smaller. The Chinese people are not all Yao Mings! Goodness! Julia was on the smaller side when we got her as well. Did I dwell on it? Hardly! I wish I could just spend 2 minutes with this family and tell them to stop looking at what she isn't (your biological child) and realize what she is. Someone else's daughter that you have been given the priviledge to raise. Julia will never be a cutout of Wayne and I like Cam and Anna are. She is her own person 100%. We can give her our morals and foundation to become a happy healthy adult. Phew!
My fingers are tired from typing all that. You think that I'm being too hard on that family? Maybe. Do you think they need time to adjust and get used to being parents. Possibly. Time will tell. I can only hope that they give that little girl all the love and care that she needs. Blah. Maybe I'm being a tired crab. Hahaha!!
Either way, thank for allowing me to vent and get that out. I'd love to start a class about international adoption for waiting families. Giving them a real-life look at what it's all about. ~heavy sigh~ Maybe in a perfect world.....
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